Monday, March 4, 2013

Holding & Letting Go

As I have said here before, I have been thinking a lot about my life and contemplating my soul lately. My mind is constantly filled up with ideas, things that inspire me, beautiful words, and flowering truths. I am digging deep into myself and unearthing my purpose, my bliss. I am realizing that life is more than just deciding what you want your career to be and whether or not you want a family. It's about undergoing changes and learning when to  hold on and when to let go. It's about learning to decide what you can't live without and what you need to stop fruitlessly clinging to.

I know I've had this challenge before...
found here.
What I Am Holding Onto:

Love. I am never letting this out of my reach. I am filling myself up with it, bathing in it, and singing about it from the rooftops. Love is a permanent roommate in my soul.

Creativity. I am keeping my creative fire burning. I am tending the fire with an open mind and spirit. The day is not complete unless I have created something -beautiful prose, lovely images, soulful jewelry.

Patience. It has taken me a long time to learn to be patient with the world, but I have benefited from it so much. Being impatient with other people and situations does so much damage to your energy. I have vowed to be as patient as possible in all things.

Honesty. I try to be an honest person, but the one I am guilty of lying to the most is myself. I am learning to open myself up and inspect my thoughts and emotions with raw honesty. I am learning to listen to myself and to stay true.

What I Am Letting Go Of:

Jealousy. There is no room for jealousy in my heart. I don't have the energy to be envious of others and their lives. There are things that I want, but I refuse to become bitter just because someone else has them and I do not. 

Negative Influences. There have been countless people and things in my life that I have held onto with all my might, but in the end have been more detrimental to me than helpful. The hardest lesson I have learned lately is that even the people you love and who love you can be bad for your soul.

Fear. Letting go of this is the most difficult for me. There are a lot of things I fear in life, and my anxiety makes everything worse. But I know that all the best things lie on the other side of my fear. I refuse to get in my own way on my path to bliss.

What are you holding on to? What have you learned to let go?

Lady Unlaced


  1. I love this post, your openness and honesty is really encouraging for me.
    I think right now I'm really holding on to how other people see me, which feels kind of horrible to write, but it's true. It isn't the same as necessarily caring what others think, I used to care a lot about that. I think it's more like... I know I can present a certain image to people, a positive image, and I use that to protect myself from letting people get in and see me warts and all. When I feel like people might be starting to get underneath I can get really nervous and panicky and my walls just go straight up. I find it easier to let myself be open online, like now, but in real life I think I'm extremely guarded. I'd like to learn to let go of that.
    Something I've let go of is apologising for who I am. I used to say sorry about a million times a day and I've really worked on that for the past few years, getting to a place where I don't automatically start apologise for everything all the time. Even though I do present a certain image of myself a lot of the time I don't present anything that isn't actually true, I'm a huge advocate of not being ashamed of yourself and your individuality and I've really come into a place of feeling confident about who I am, I don't care whether someone likes it or not and I'll tell them that if they get funny with me.

    1. I am much more guarded offline as well. And I am always apologizing for everything. It's something that I am really trying to work on. I have nothing to apologize for to everyone and I need to stop doing it. I have finally come to a point in my life where I am ready to confront things within myself and do battle with them, rather than just pretending they don't exist and putting on a false smile. It's freeing in a way.

  2. I can't even explain how beautiful I think this is. :) I'm so happy for you. Evolving through life is the only way to go.

    1. I'm glad you think it's beautiful :) I think a lot of people are afraid to evolve and change. I am trying to embrace it with open arms

  3. I love the direction your blog has been going in lately. It really inspires me.

    1. Thank you dear, and I am happy to hear that <3 I blog for myself and I try to stay true to what I am feeling and going through, but I love knowing that I can inspire or uplift other people. Especially my friend <3 -hugs-

  4. I love this post so much. I have a lot I have been trying to let go lately as well. It is so hard, this work. But it needs to be done.

    1. It is incredibly hard. I wrote this post and I am trying, but it is still difficult to actually do.


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